Mar 09 2010

At Three Months On….

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Dear Praying Friends and Family,

As you are aware, we have been much challenged of late.  Upon recent reflection, words from the apostle Paul resonate with us here, in hope…

We think you ought to know, dear brothers and sisters, about the trouble we’ve been going through… We were crushed and overwhelmed beyond our ability to endure, and we thought we would never live through it.  In fact, we expected to die.  But as a result, we stopped relying on ourselves and learned to rely only on God, who raises the dead.  And God did rescue us from mortal danger, and will rescue us again.  We have placed our confidence in God, and God will continue to rescue us.  And you are helping us by praying for us.  Then many people will give thanks because God has graciously answered so many prayers for our safety. (2 Corinthians 1:8-11)

Three months ago this week, as we prayed to know more what we were facing, we were given a more definitive diagnosis of gastric cancer.  More than twelve weeks ago this day, I remember… from our conversation with Melissa’s oncologist, upon asking what kind of timeframe we might expect to have left, that if we got to three months, it would be a miracle.  Well, now, here we are, continuing on, day by day, witnessing God’s grace abounding[1], and treasuring every shared moment together as God’s perfect gift[2] as we experience love and care, tenderly expressed for one another.

Today along with yesterday and the past weekend has been marked with very low energy for Melissa.  We are praying, hopeful for her to regain strength as we aim to have her receive more frequent, moderately high dosage Vitamin C IV treatments (semi-weekly).

Sensing that her body needs “a break” from some of the harder regimens of meds and supplements she had been taking to date, we have also begun letting her rest more and decreasing much of the amounts of prescribed, naturopathic intake while still maintaining appropriate pain management as necessary.

Now and through the days ahead, please pray for Melissa:

  • for the healing, rest, comfort, peace that her body needs;
  • for her energy and strength to increase;
  • for her ability to receive increased nutrition, calories needed, and for her to have healthy weight gain;
  • for our family’s adjustment into this new season of her healing journey.

With renewed faith, hope and love for one another in the Lord, we continue

Prayerfully yours, and His,
The Espiritu’s


[1] so that, as the Word tells us, in all things, at all times, having all that we need, we would abound in every good work (2 Corinthians 9:8)

[2] every good, perfect gift, coming from above from the Father of the heavenly lights Who does not change like shifting shadows (James 1:17)

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Feb 06 2010

Sign our global Guestbook of churches, congregations, communities, locations lifting up… prayersForMelissa….

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Please sign our global Guestbook to let us know of churches, congregations, communities and the multiple locations (e.g. states, nations) in various areas throughout the world where people are praying for Melissa and our family.  We would like to give thankful prayers for our intercessors in specific localities.  Interceding before the throne of grace, together with you, and the Lord, we remain

Prayerfully yours, and His

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Jan 29 2010

Blessed by Fellowship, prayersForMelissa and Farm Fresh Delivery, organic Whole Foods

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FYI – Thought to share this, one of the “God sightings” that my beloved, sweet Melissa so often refers to in these days….

A modified excerpt of a message from some praying friends:

Dear Friends,

When I took on this food project, I had a little idea in the back of my head.  I didn’t want to say anything until it had come true.  Today’s that day.

We get fresh produce delivered to our door every two weeks from a local company by the name of Farm Fresh Delivery (they’re in Indianapolis and Cincinnati).  About two weeks ago, I contacted them with Rex and Melissa’s story.  Their response was, “We’re praying for Rex, Melissa, and the girls, and we’ll get back to you on the food.”  Perfect.

They emailed today and have offered [a multiple matching of our fellowship's donation].  They will prepare a bin of organic produce including items that Rex and Melissa request, and it will be delivered to our house.  We can still supplement with additional items from Whole Foods and Costco, but this will stretch our donations even further.


–from fellow friends

Praise God from Whom all blessings flow….

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Jan 21 2010

Pastoral Prospective on prayersForMelissa.com

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21 January 2010

News that is pressing… of which we’re pressed to hear… and then, News that is reforming, restoring, renewing News for the new year

The First Presbyterian

Pastoral Perspectives

Ears to Hear… Words of Encouragement

“New Year, New Body”

“I AM healing Melissa”

“God is able”

“God is faithful”

“God is on the move”

“Peace, I give to you”

“Do not be afraid”

“I AM with you”

“I AM for you”

Pastoral Prospective on prayersForMelissa.com

As I write this, I am realizing that today is my father’s birthday. My Dad would have been 89 years old on this day. A day in which I find myself facing one of, if not the most challenging trials of my life, ever.

Seven weeks ago today, my beloved, sweet Melissa was recovering from acute renal failure and we were being given a preliminary diagnosis of possible ovarian cancer in her abdominal area. Six weeks ago today, her oncologist informed us that this was instead not only stomach cancer, but an unusual, very rare and highly aggressive form already in its late, advanced stage four. As you may imagine, this was devastating news to be delivered, especially for our family with six children, the eldest in college and the youngest age six.

In our prayer life together and individually through the past several weeks, we have been blessed with ears to hear in the spirit some timely words of encouragement listed in the upper left column. You need to know that Melissa and I have gone from praying, asking God to please heal Melissa, to thanking God for the healing we are now already witnessing in Melissa.

At our most recent follow-up visit two weeks ago with her oncologist, we were amazed, realizing how remarkable it is that she is still with us. A week ago, she had energy enough to attend part of our daughter Hannah’s swim meet competition, rooting for the Trojan team to “win one for Momma ‘E’”!!! :)

No matter what the outcome, our prayers continue to be that God be glorified and faith be increased among us. I remain steadfast in this new season of faith to minister to my wife and family, first and foremost to the glory of God. My family and I thank God for you, each one and all for the love, care, support and compassion we share and experience together as we forge ahead with the challenges of this new year in the Lord Who heals us of all diseases. To God alone be all the glory. In Christ, Pastor Rex

 

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Dec 26 2009

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Pastoral Leadership Fellows and Friends

 
 

Dear friends and colleagues in ministry,

 
 

I’ve been meaning to send you a more direct communication such as this for the past few weeks.  At present, I can think of no better thing on this early birthday morning/eve/overnight of Christmas Eve as I turn 45 than to let you know how much you mean to me and for my beloved wife Melissa, especially at this time.  I am so grateful for us to have had the time to be with and get to know one another this past year, and especially last month as we traveled together in Mexico.

 
 

As you most likely know now, Melissa and our family are faced with a daunting challenge of her having been diagnosed with late advanced stage stomach cancer.  We have just this week elected to place her under hospice care at home for at least through the extended holiday season for the next couple of weekends ahead. 

 
 

Last night, we had a wonderful time of gathering with family and friends in our community of faith, together experiencing soaking prayers for Melissa’s healing with some gifted intercessors and worship leaders in our home.  It was a joyous time of praising the Lord and ascribing glory to God as we acknowledged and proclaimed that nothing is impossible with God (Luke 1:37).  God is filling us, through fervent prayers and a spirit of zeal and supplication in these days, with such hope in Christ as we place our trust in the Lord with all our heart (Proverbs 3:5-6).  As the outcome of prayers for Melissa’s healing are realized on this and/or the other side of eternity, we will praise God with thanksgiving all the more knowing the Lord is worthy of all glory, blessing, honor, power and might as unto the Lamb.

 
 

Thank you for all the kind expressions of love and care we continue receiving through this our beloved fellowship.  We are so encouraged by your faithfulness and generosity, imparting such grace and peace unto us, and giving us such timely words of encouragement.  Please find the attached PDF file containing a personal reflection piece posted two weeks ago on my blog site(s) which can also be found on the web site/page online at prayersForMelissa.com under “Words from Rex”.  To receive updates via e-mail, you can register online via CaringBridge.org for subscription.  You can also join the Facebook group “Praying for Melissa Espiritu and the Espiritu Family” for more frequent updates as well as via Twitter. 

 
 

We are ever so filled with comfort and gratitude for your continuing prayers and support as we journey forward with the leading and in the power of the Holy Spirit.  May the name of Jesus be magnified all the more in our lives to the glory of God.

 
 

And may the Lord’s blessings be upon you and yours in sacred spaces as we celebrate the birth of the Christ Child at Christmas. 

 
 

Grace and Peace,

 
 

 
 

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Dec 09 2009

The Best… of my love….

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times… Last night, in the Christian church sanctuary, I watched my dear, sweet Melissa, my beloved wife of 22 years weep with me as we watched two of our older daughters, Hannah and Grace sing together with their fellow student an original Christmas song composed by our own L. Grace Espiritu and performed with her sister Hannah at their high school’s annual holiday choirs concert. We watched and listened, a sight and sounds to behold, indeed, as our eldest child, Christina and I held on to her mother’s hand with deep love and affection. We experienced the joy and the reason for the season of celebration as the hope-filled words of the gospel rang through the lyrics of timeless songs, echoing the good news of life in Christ Jesus our Lord. The Light of Life that has come into the world shone upon us in a fresh, new way that brought tears to our eyes in light of terrible news concerning the recent plight of the body of my dearly held loved one.
 

Given the grave situation at hand, I cannot help but tremble as I write. My God, these ought to be the best days of our lives together when the best of our love in life would shine brightly before us for the glory of God. Newly, never before witnessed, unfathomable depths of grief in our immediate family have come upon us as we now together cry out with heartfelt prayers to the Lord our God, the One Who heals us and in Whom alone do we find our healing, comfort and peace. In the Lord alone, we find strength to carry on in the face of such stark, unsettling news. Melissa has been diagnosed with an unusual form of stomach cancer: a rare type of gastric adenocarcinoma with Littinus Plastica. A Google search brings up the following singular web page excerpt:
 

Describe diffuse type gastric adenocarcinoma

=subtype of gastric adenocarcinoma

Features

1. Tumor infiltrates as single cells

2. Signet ring cells

3. Diffuse lesion with littinus plastica/ leather bottle appearance

4.Seen in younger pts with equal male: female

5. less clear genetic/environmental association

6. worse prognosis

Pasted from <http://cueflash.com/decks/pathologypt3>
 

We have been informed that there is no conventional cure currently known for this condition. Any modern medical treatment or therapy prescribed for this illness would be only palliative in nature. We have become aware of some alternative support measures that anecdotally may have some promise.
 

We ask, therefore, with intercessions before the throne of grace for dear friends and family to join with us in pleading before God, calling upon the Lord. At this time we are in urgent need of your prayers for healing, wisdom, grace and mercy. In this our time of need, we place our hope and trust in the Lord our God Who is able to make all grace abound, so that in all things, at all times, having all that we need, we would abound in every good deed to the glory of God. For we know that in all things, God works for the good of those who love the Lord, who have been called according to His purpose. And so we take heart and courage to face these trials in a Sovereign Lord and Gracious God Whose compassions, tender mercies, loving-kindness, steadfast faithfulness and unfailing love are renewed every morning with comfort and strength for the day.
 

Please pray for Melissa, my beloved wife and mother of and along with our six children, Christina (19), Hannah (17), [Lydia] Grace (15), Tabitha (12), Priscilla (9), and Sara (6), as well as her husband, their father. She and these, our lovely loving precious daughters, young ladies, growing girls and tenderly treasured little ones are being upheld in prayer. We trust in the Lord Whose healing, reigning and abiding presence is ever with us even through all eternally.
 

Now, to the Holy and Anointed One Who is able to do immeasurably more, exceedingly, abundantly far above all we could ever ask or think or even imagine, to Him be glory in the church and throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.
 

With The Best… of my love….

Rex (for Melissa) Espiritu

[and our girls]

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Nov 19 2009

What am I most grateful for this Thanksgiving?

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During this season of Thanksgiving, there are many things one may recount as noteworthy items to be grateful for. Some usual, more typical notions of life, health, family and friends among others may come to mind. However, as I further contemplate what elicits gratitude in my heart this morning, a most singular thought occurred. If you had to name one thing, just one thing you would give thanks for, what might that one thing be? I wondered as I wandered on the way today, asking myself in the Lord’s presence at this very moment, “What am I most grateful for?”

Now, the way the mind works sometimes, it could either go through a number of tangential paths, following some rabbit trails, perusing through a few strawberry patches and smelling the flowers along the way. Or it could suddenly turn quite focused, set in a single direction, determined to press forward on a particular trajectory. In a few moments, the latter alternative became my own experience. It wasn’t long before I found myself wanting to draw upon foundational tenets of personal conviction from past spiritual growth and development, and theological formation in my own journey of faith.

In the liturgical calendar of the Revised Common Lectionary, this Sunday in November, just before Thanksgiving is designated for the celebration of the reign of Christ the King. It marks the end of the liturgical year, culminating in the observance of Christ’s kingdom and rule over all, with an eye toward Jesus’ coming in Advent. From a Christian, reformed perspective, standing in the stream of a tradition with a high view of the sovereignty of God, this is cause for great celebration! The fact that God rules, the truth that Jesus is Lord, and the certainty of the Spirit’s reigning presence among us, along with the sure hope and promise of Christ the King’s return in glory—That’s all too awesome for even the slightest exuberance in this expressed personality to be contained.

In this vein, one might begin to surmise that this is the one thing I am most thankful for. To be sure, the idea that God is in control can indeed be a strong source of comfort for us no matter what situation we may encounter. A deeper probing of the heart reveals a more personal, profound sense of gratitude. When I read God’s love letter to me in Scripture, I find myself giving thanks mostly for the words I hear the Spirit of Jesus saying to me through the Gospel of John (15:16). “You did not choose me, but I chose you…” The Lord God Almighty, Maker of heaven and earth, Creator of all including my own very being, chose me! To know and be known as the Lord’s, to love and be loved by the Lord, to choose and most of all to be chosen by my Lord and Savior—That continually abiding experience of God is what I am most profoundly thankful for today. As the lyrics of the song “Knowing You” written by worship leader Graham Kendrick goes, “Knowing You, Jesus, knowing You… There is no greater thing. You’re my all, You’re the best! And I love you, Lord.” I give thanks most of all for You!

Beloved, what are you most grateful for today? In words similar to the apostle, Paul’s letter to the saints in Ephesus, I pray that you and your loved ones know this love that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. May you know the Lord’s blessings anew in Thanksgiving!

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Oct 21 2009

Let the Redeemed of the Lord Say So

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As we celebrated in this season of homecoming with our sisters and brothers in Christ through anointed worship and praise led by Buchanon Unity ministering in music with us last Sunday, I am continuing to be filled, basking in the afterglow of the Holy Spirit’s blessing upon our offering as the Lord leads us anew in the journey of faith. One of the sayings we shared in song together was the saying, “Let the redeemed of the Lord say so…” Having sung and said that, let me say a thing or two here about “sayings” so….

 
 

Have you ever stopped and wondered how often certain witty sayings may come to mind given various situations one may encounter on a given day?

 
 

In my own experience, the thought was brought on recently upon noting John Wooden’s 99th birthday as reported by the L.A. Times in which one article listed 99 things about this former UCLA basketball coach. A significant portion of the Twitter-verse (as the universe of Twitter is sometimes referred to) was, on that day last week, all a-Twitter with many a wise quote shared by fans and admirers of this legendary man. Even now, a week or so later, a search on Twitter reveals many social media network users sharing their favorite quotes of his with one another and a whole world of other followers.

 
 

It is worth noting here that our own C.L.A.S.S. (Christian Living At Sunday School) offering on Sunday mornings at First Presbyterian Church includes a group led by John Lansinger in gleaning from John Wooden’s life as they read through his book, “A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court” together. His lifetime of observations and reflections are not only to be applicable in the game of basketball, but they hold treasures of wisdom and insight to be savored beyond the world of sports, with lessons to be learned and applied for his whole life to be lived well. And not just for himself, but for others’ lives as well.

 
 

All this got me thinking further this week as we approach the sometimes so-called “Stewardship season” and how that kind of language reflecting a particular sort of narrowed mindset is in need of reformation. How we refer to certain notions of living faithfully in the world can reveal a lack of understanding on our part of the bigger picture, showing an aspect of our lived theology that is in need of correction.

 
 

The following two corrective sayings come to mind: “Stewardship is not a Sunday. It’s a lifestyle.” “Reformation is not only for a time. It’s an ongoing process.” That is, stewardship is a transformative way of living from day to day. It is, in effect, responding with love and care for others, in gratitude of heart, for and by the grace we have abundantly and extravagantly been given in Christ. And reformation is, really, a continual changing of heart and mind to become more and more like Jesus. As the Latin saying goes from the time of the great reformation, “reformata et semper reformanda“. We are, as Christians in the Reformed tradition, reformed and always reforming according to the Word of God.

 
 

The last Sunday of October is marked on our church calendar as a time when we celebrate, recognize and observe the Reformation. As I shared with our confirmation class a few weeks ago, this year is especially significant in that we are remembering the 500th birthday of the one regarded as the father of Presbyterianism, the venerable reformer, John Calvin. Let us celebrate well by continually, ever more so, living into the lives God has called us to live with one another. Not just for ourselves, but for the world around us in desperate need of the sure hope we have in the good news of the Gospel of Jesus Christ.

 
 

Let the redeemed of the Lord say so in new ways with sayings that reflect God’s glory and which effect His redeeming grace in Christ for the world. Amen. –Pastor Rex

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Oct 02 2009

PC(USA) – Theology and Worship – Indiscriminate Baptism and Baptismal Integrity

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Indiscriminate Baptism and Baptismal Integrity

by Ronald P. Byars

  

  

  

  

  

The most critical liturgical issue facing our denomination is, in my judgment, centered on the Sacrament of Baptism. The problem is not a matter of form or of liturgical texts. The problem has to do with the professions of faith and vows asked of parents presenting their children for Baptism, and with the promises made by the congregation.

Four years after my ordination to the ministry, I drove all the way across the state of Michigan for an interview with the Committee on Ministerial Relations of the Presbytery of Detroit, meeting in the church which I now serve as pastor. My growing dissatisfaction with the denomination in which I had been ordained had led me at last to seek ministerial standing in a church that seemed to me to represent a responsible, catholic orthodoxy. This was, of course, the heyday of Karl Barth, who had made a powerful impact on American Presbyterianism. Barth had opened Calvin in a new way, rescuing him from scholastic “Calvinists” who had so often distorted his work. Through Barth’s rereading of Calvin, I found it possible to connect with a classical-but certainly not fundamentalist-Christianity.

Changing denominations was not an altogether easy matter. Among the issues I brought to that decision was a concern about the sacraments. I had been accustomed to a church that celebrated the Lord’s Supper weekly. I had also been accustomed to “believers’ baptism.” Those commitments had been important to me, and I could not in all honesty become a Presbyterian until I had worked out an acceptable frame of reference with regard to these sacraments. Imagine the joy when I discovered, reading the proposed Service for the Lord’s Day that Calvin had intended, as a key part of his reform project, to restore the broken unity of Word and Sacrament! Further exploration made it clear that Calvin’s project-though it had failed at the time of Reformation-had again come up for review in Reformed circles. Baptism was a bit more difficult.

What justification is there for baptizing infants? Karl Barth, whom I much admired, found none. Does the sacrament work ex opere operato? In other words, do the right words, the right intentions, and the right substance combine to wash away original sin, as Roman Catholics believed? Could one, hypothetically, baptize a child surreptitiously, without the parent’s knowledge, and expect that something real had occurred? This point of view did not persuade me. If that’s what Presbyterians believed about Baptism, it was an impediment that I would have to consider very seriously. Was Baptism just a sort of blessing ceremony? If that’s what it was; then it made sense to baptize any and every child. That view seemed to be an entirely inadequate and unsacramental view of Baptism, with no justification in Scripture. Were the parents making a confession of faith on the child’s behalf, which the child might later confirm? That was what I understood to be the traditional Lutheran view. I did not understand how parents could make any confession on the child’s behalf, nor why they should be asked to do so.

I began to read what Presbyterians said about Baptism in their official documents. It became clear that, in their practice of infant baptism, Presbyterians intended to focus on God’s action. Just as Jesus had said to his disciples, “You did not choose me but I chose you . . . .”, one can see in the Sacrament of Baptism God’s act of choosing. Whatever the age of the person being baptized, it’s God’s choosing that is the crucial action.
Adults, as well as infants, will have to decide many times after their baptism whether or not to choose God back!

This all made perfectly good sense-but what grounds might there be for presuming that a given child was an object of God’s choosing? Why this child and not every child? The answer given was that God chooses people who have responded in faith, but also chooses the children of those who are members of the faithful community. This also made sense-not only by analogy with the Jewish precedent of circumcision-but in embracing the biblical idea of “covenant.” God ordinarily chooses us, not one by one, but as part of a people who are knit together. Those people share a common destiny, and a common journey. The children journey with their parents, who journey with a community.
When the parents make a profession of faith, they do so not on behalf of their child, but as a statement of their identity as members of the covenanted community, and their intention to form the child’s faith as best they can within that community.
Under those circumstances, there is at least a reasonable prospect that a baptized person will grow into her baptism in due time, making a profession of faith and choosing back the God who first chose her.

For me, these ideas came together in a kind of “aha!” moment. Infant baptism was about the status of the children of believers-members of the covenant community-and not about children in general! Baptism was meant neither to save the child from some peril in this world or the next, nor as a sentimental blessing upon newborns, nor as a way for the parents to profess the child’s supposed “implicit” faith by proxy. It was an act which incorporated into the body of Christ the children of persons who were already a part of that body. Presbyterians did not do “emergency” baptisms, nor did they recruit neighborhood children for the Sacrament. Even though they presumed that God held other people’s children in equal affection, Presbyterians did not seek to baptize them. Baptism is about our own children-chosen, with us, to be part of a community set apart for a servant role. That was the insight that turned everything right for me. I embraced what was to me a new and richer understanding of the Sacrament of Baptism, and did so in good conscience and with enthusiasm. My appreciation of the richness of the Reformed tradition, with its deep reverence for the God who moves toward us before we move toward God, grew by leaps and bounds with these new insights.

In my early years as a Presbyterian, the actual practice of Baptism seemed to conform reasonably well with what was written in the official books. Those who brought their children to be baptized were church members themselves. By profession and practice members of the covenant community, they presented their children to be incorporated into that community and shaped by its faith. It was true that some parents who requested Baptism for their children appeared to have a rather casual attitude toward the practice of the faith, but I understood that even in a covenanted community, there would be stronger and weaker members. The fact remained that the church was their community, however much or little they valued it, and it made sense to extend that belonging to the next generation. More often than not, their children actually came within reach of the church’s influence. Their parents brought them to the nursery, then to Sunday School, then they came to youth groups, then to Confirmation class in a more or less reliable sequence. Then, dating perhaps roughly to the 1960s, something began to change. At first, the change was so slight that it was almost imperceptible. By the 1980s, it was inescapable.

While certainly in every generation some have fallen away from the faith and out of the church, this phenomenon became more nearly the rule than the exception beginning, perhaps, in the 60s. Some studies have shown that as many as 50 percent of young people confirmed in Presbyterian churches since the 1960s have dropped out of any church relation-and sometimes that figure seems low. As a whole generation turned against western civilization and all the institutions of what seemed a racist and corrupt society, they rejected the church whose identity was so intertwined with the history of western culture. In particular, they rejected churches like our own, which had served almost as an informal religious establishment since colonial times. This phenomenon has been well-documented and much discussed, and by now we have all heard the news and gotten the point.

The acute phase of this antiestablishment mood did not last so very long, but the impact of it continues. Most of the 60s’ generation eventually made their peace with society-or at least made their peace with employers, the business community, and the free market system. Most did not return to church. They married and had children. Some of them wanted their children to be baptized-perhaps for “religious” reasons, perhaps without quite knowing why. Others were indifferent to such a rite, but their parents coveted it for their new grandchildren. More frequently than ever before, it began to be grandparents who telephoned the pastor to arrange for baptism. The parents of the child to be baptized lived in another community or another state, and had no church connection.

Ministers who failed to perceive that a change occurred continued to do more or less as they had early in their ministries-they baptized those they were asked to baptize, as they had always done when it was safer to presume that at least one parent was a member of the Christian church. The difference-frequently overlooked-was that at least half the time neither parent had any current relationship with the church. They may have had a past relationship. They may have had a nostalgic relationship. They had no present relationship with the church and no plans for establishing one. Still, more often than not, ministers kept on baptizing-eliciting professions of faith that rang hollow, and promises of support from congregations who suspected, if they did not actually know, that neither they nor any other congregation would have an opportunity to keep such promises.

Without consciously intending to do it, our practice has the effect of transforming our Reformed theology of Baptism. In colonial times, the Puritans had compromised for a time with what they called the “Half-Way Covenant. When few children of the church grew up to make professions of faith, the question arose as to the status of their children. The Puritan decision-makers decided that the children of baptized persons might also be baptized, even, though their parents could make no profession of faith. The Puritans may have contributed to their own problem by imposing excessively rigorous requirements on those who might otherwise have made a profession of faith. In any case, it may be that we Presbyterians, having never actually decided to do so, have in practice instituted our own “Half-Way Covenant.” For how many generations will we baptize the children of baptized persons who have opted out of the church?

Once upon a time, when I chaired the appropriate presbytery committee, a Seventh-Day Adventist pastor approached me. He said that he had been reading Calvin’s Institutes, and wanted to become a Presbyterian. There is, of course, a certain triumph in making a proselyte (as Jesus himself remarked), but it seemed a moment for caution. I asked the pastor whether he knew any Presbyterians. He didn’t. I suggested that there might be some value in meeting some and hearing what they said and reading what they were writing before making a decision based on reading a sixteenth -century document, no matter how marvelous that document! It seems that there has been a growing distinction between what Presbyterians say in our official documents that we believe and do, and what we actually do and perhaps also believe. To understand what Presbyterians believe about Baptism, one may learn more by careful observation than by studying theological works or confessions of faith, or even the Book of Order.

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

Issues Facing the Church

It is important to recognize that Presbyterians (and others) have a problem here. The key issue for Reformed communities has always been that the church baptizes the children of its own members, and not children generally. Surely I am not alone in my dismay that we are becoming a church that baptizes anyone’s children “on demand” as it were, without consulting our own theology of Baptism. There must be many Presbyterian ministers and elders for whom there are matters at stake here of such importance that they feel their personal integrity to be on the line.

Some will argue with the official position of the church, as stated in the Book of Order:

When a child is being presented for Baptism, ordinarily the parent(s) or one(s) rightly exercising parental responsibility shall be an active member of the congregation. Those presenting children for Baptism shall promise to provide nurture and guidance within the community of faith until the child is ready to make a personal profession of faith and assume the responsibilities of active church membership.3

The “ordinarily” in this citation does not mean that a session or minister can choose to ignore it. The same paragraph identifies the exception indicated by that word. If the parents are not on the active roll of the baptizing congregation, “A session may also consider a request for the baptism of a child from a Christian parent who is an active member of another congregation” (my emphasis).

There may be those who justify ignoring this requirement of the Book of Order because they have a theological quarrel with it. They may argue that there is grace in the Sacrament whether the candidate is appropriate or not, and that by offering the Sacrament generously to the children of unchurched parents, those parents may find themselves touched by that grace and turn to Jesus Christ and to Christ’s church. There is no way that I know either to prove that point or to disprove it. There is no doubt that grace works in mysterious ways. Although personal experience and anecdotal evidence do not support the likelihood of such a response, neither can it be ruled out. Certainly there must be occasions in which there is such an occurrence. Nevertheless, one might argue with equal force that the Sacrament offered indiscriminately, with no apparent commitment to the discipline it implies, will cheapen it in the valuation of those for whom it is no more than a social ritual, an appeasement offered to relatives, or a ritual to which they attach their own idiosyncratic interpretation. It would not be so very difficult to make the case that baptism under such circumstances reduces its value in the eyes of congregations. Hearing solemn promises made lightly over and over again when it becomes apparent that there is no follow-through gradually teaches congregations that such vows are perfunctory and not serious. This, in turn, affects the way they make their own promises. One of the things against which our Reformed forebears rebelled was an empty ritualism-not rites as such, but empty forms, made on demand without personal engagement.

The great risk is that the church will lose the power to say what its own rites mean and what they require. Out of a fear of appearing exclusive or ungenerous, we forfeit our stewardship of the sacraments and offer them on demand to whomever asks for them, asking no questions about why they want it, and leaving it to the “consumers” to interpret their meaning. So, grandparents ask for Baptism because they believe it to be necessary in case “something” should happen to the child. Parents want it because they saw a “christening” in a television show. TV writers, novelists, and neighbor-hood hearsay define Baptism and say why it should be desirable. A person whose mother attended Catholic parochial school feels that she needs to fulfill an obligation–she’s just not sure why. In just such ways, a confused society with only sentimental memories of “family rituals” takes over the church’s prerogative to teach and define the meaning of its own sacraments.

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 

  

  

  

  

  

  

Challenges of the Culture

What is at stake here is not only the church’s right to define itself, but its ability to do so. Our society is at once intensely secular and extravagantly religious. The secularism challenges us, but the varieties of piety that have taken hold of people’s imaginations may threaten Christian faith even more. People long for “spirituality,” but they loathe discriminating among available spiritualities and are not well equipped to do so. They feel free to mix and match from this source and that, blending doctrines and pieties with no concern for consistency. Recognizing the importance of rituals in human life, bookstores sell volumes on creating one’s own. The traditional Sacrament of Baptism might retain a certain charm or satisfy a need for those who sense the desirability of a birth ritual, but have neither the competence nor, perhaps, the confidence to create their own.

In such a theological climate, the church needs above all to be clear about who we are and Whose we are, and to claim the right to say what our rites mean and what they do not mean. There are seasons in the history of the church in which the integrity of its mission stands or falls with its ability to define its own boundaries. The difficulty of articulating a clear message of identity is magnified exponentially in a culture that believes itself already to be acquainted with Christianity, however much that acquaintance may be distorted. The old liberal cry that invites people out of their various Christian fundamentalisms to create new and modern versions of the faith that satisfy the requirements of their personal experience is useful only for those few for whom fundamentalism has been the problem. Most of the population is more likely to have a hazy religious background than one that is excessively certain. Our time requires not a call to personal interpretation, which has already been carried to extremes, but rather a measure of clarity, and certainly that clarity should begin with the church’s rites of initiation, of which the Sacrament of Baptism is the foundation.

Baptism by immersion is clumsy and difficult-which is, perhaps, a word in its favor, since the Christian life itself is clumsy and difficult. It has the virtue of visually dramatizing Christ’s death and resurrection, to which the person baptized is joined. Baptism as we customarily practice it is more nearly reminiscent either of the outpouring of the Holy Spirit or of an act of washing. Nevertheless, whether by immersion or affusion, at the essential core of Baptism is a testimony to the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ. As sweet as the little child may be, and even though the harsh realities of life may seem far removed from the tenderness of the occasion, this Sacrament necessarily points to the fact that those who are united with Christ become part of a body that must be prepared to lose its life in order to gain it.

Can baptizing children whose parents are outside that body, and who will in all likelihood withhold their children from the nurture of that body, possibly do justice to a gospel that calls us to support one another in laying down our lives so that we might find them? Can such baptisms in any way model for either parents or for congregations a gospel that summons us to share in some way the self-offering so strikingly evident in the cross?
Grace is free, but can we justify encouraging people to line up, hands outstretched, for free grace with no suggestion that they need to live by that grace and into it? Or, that they need to labor with the church to realize the fruits of that grace in their own lives and in the lives of their baptized children?

Sometimes, the most loving way to deal with those who want something of us is to say “no”-or “not yet.” Certainly, the petitioners may go away angry, but they will know at least that the thing for which they have asked is something which we hold to be of real value. My response to requests to baptize the children of unchurched parents is to suggest that there are several steps involved in planning a baptism, and the first step is for the parents to sort out their own spiritual commitments.
Once they settle that question, it’s appropriate to consider the next step.
Arranging the baptism follows, unless it has become apparent that they cannot in good conscience attempt to lead their children where they themselves have no desire to go.

A broad, tolerant, inclusive church is one that has great difficulty with setting boundaries. We are terribly fearful of rejecting or appearing to reject anyone, because we know the graciousness of Jesus Christ and his openness to all sorts of people, including notorious sinners. My appeal to the church is not to become ungracious or exclusive, nor to erect high walls that only a few can climb. Nevertheless, I believe that the church of Jesus Christ in North America is in a missionary situation. Ours is perhaps more difficult than the situation of those who bear the mission to some corner of the world where the gospel has never been heard.

We live in a terribly ambiguous position, in which the great majority of people in the nation perhaps think of themselves as being, in some way, Christian, yet have nearly no knowledge of the content of that faith and minimal experience with the church.
When they (or their parents on their behalf) request baptism for their children, they seldom really know what it is they are asking for.

If we provide it on their own terms, do we not contribute to a religious complacency that presumes that the church exists simply to provide services at high points and transitional moments in life? Do we not miss the opportunity to make at least a gesture in the direction of affirming that the Christian church is more than a generic religious institution, in which even its most sacred rites are available to the general public? Don’t we miss the opportunity to demonstrate that the church makes certain claims which may run against the grain of the culture?

It may be that I have not entirely shaken off my early formation in a “believers’ church.” My approach in this matter may be more “sectarian” than “churchly.” Still, can even a “people’s church” (as the established churches of Europe conceive themselves) use inclusiveness as an excuse to refuse to define itself or to distinguish its identity from other cultural institutions? There seems to me an acute danger to a church that is afraid of defining its boundaries for fear of offending those who might interpret such a definition in ungenerous terms.

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 

  

  

  

  

  

  

Choices-from Moderate to Radical

What are the options? The options I can think of range from moderate to radical. A moderate action for a church that senses the danger of losing its integrity in this matter would be to focus on the issue far more powerfully in seminary courses-not simply to teach the polity of the Book of Order, but to teach the theology behind the polity and to raise pastoral and missionary issues with self-conscious directness. This is a moderate approach, because it would probably take at least a generation to see much effect, if then. The political pressures within congregations will consistently work against a serious implementation of our baptismal theology.

A similar and supplementary approach would be for presbytery session records committees to compare session approvals of baptisms with church roll books to see whether particular sessions are respecting the baptismal theology to which our polity commits us. If not, I do not suggest punitive action, but visitations to sessions for the purpose of beginning a process of continuing education in this matter.

Another approach would be for ministers who share a commitment to Reformed baptismal theology to covenant together to support one another in finding ways to deal with this issue in their congregations. This approach will be effective only to the extent that one can find such colleagues!

The far more radical approach would be for the church to call for a moratorium on infant baptisms until such time as the moratorium shall have caught the attention of ministers, sessions, and congregations and caused them to reaffirm a Reformed theology of this Sacrament. I do not expect such a thing to happen. However, as radical as it is, it may be worthy of consideration. In the past, when theologies of baptism have lost their credibility, parts of churches have broken away to create a new baptismal discipline. That is not an attractive option, and we should do everything possible to avoid it.

Another option, of course, is simply to go along with the tide as it surges through our congregations, refusing to think about the issue, much less adhere to our polity, for fear of offending people whom we dare not risk offending. We could revise our theology to one that so focuses on grace that it becomes unthinkable to withhold either Baptism or the Lord’s Supper from anyone who wants either, for whatever reasons. The responsibility to be stewards of the sacraments, delegated to the church, could be given back to God. The responsibility of stating the terms of church membership could be laid aside. The church could abandon the task of defining itself or its faith, and simply offer whatever it has, on any terms, to whoever asks for it. If we choose that option-as perhaps we already have-honesty would require that we revise the forms of baptism so as not to cause either parents or congregations to perjure themselves.

Will we continue with the Reformed requirement that parents presenting children for Baptism make a profession of faith? Will we continue to require that congregations be present, and promise to support the Christian formation of the child? This is the most pressing liturgical question before our church.

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

  

 

  

  

  

  

  

  

NOTES

1 Service for the Lord’s Day and Lectionary for the Christian Year, (Philadelphia, The Westminster Press, 1964). This pamphlet also cites the Directory for the Worship of God, in The Constitution of the United Presbyterian Church in the United States of America, Part II: Book of Order (New York: Office of the General Assembly, 1961), VI, 1.

2 Sydney E. Ahlstrom, A Religious History of the American People, (New Haven and London: Yale University Press, 1972), pp. 158 ff.

3 Directory for Worship, Book of Order, W-2.3014.

  

  

  

  

  

Ronald P. Byars is a graduate of the University of Nebraska and Yale Divinity School, with a PhD in history from Michigan Sate University. A Presbyterian minister since 1966, he served congregations in Michigan and Kentucky. He was pastor of First Presbyterian Church in Birmingham, Michigan 1993-2000, and now serves as Professor of Worship and Preaching at Union Theological Seminary — Presbyterian School of Christian Education in Richmond, Virginia.

Byars, Ronald. “Indiscriminate Baptism and Baptismal Integrity” Reformed Liturgy & Music. Vol. XXXI, No. 1, 1997. Pages 36-40.

  

  

  

  

  

 
   
   
   
   

 
 

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Sep 19 2009

The future is now: youth ministry task force gets feedback at Big Tent

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The future is now: youth ministry task force gets feedback at Big Tent

Written by Leslie Scanlon, Outlook national reporter   

Sunday, 19 July 2009 00:00

ATLANTA — What do young people want from the Presbyterian church? And — for the young and energetic, the skeptical and the faithful and the passionate — what do Presbyterian churches have to offer?

 
 

 
 

 A General Assembly task force on youth ministry is wrangling with these questions and more, knowing that, for many young people, the question of why stick with a traditional, mainline denomination when there are so many other choices (and when a growing group of American adults are claiming “no religious affiliation”) is a very open question.

 The 2008 General Assembly created a task force on youth ministry, well aware that the Presbyterian churches have seen too many young people walking out their doors and too few walking back in. There are, of course, pockets of hope: the big and enthusiastic turnouts at recent Montreat college conferences, for example; or the commitment of young adult volunteers; or the real stories of individual congregations where organic, creative ministry with teenagers and young adults is flourishing (not just in bigger congregations, but in some smaller ones too).

 But too often, “we literally cut these kids loose,” sometimes when they finish high school, sometimes even younger, when they are confirmed, said Kathleen Farnham, director of church relations at Maryville College in Tennessee, who spoke to the task force during an “open mike” time at the Big Tent gathering recently.

 Many of these young adults go on to exciting things — to college and graduate school, travel, volunteer work around the world, and have so much to offer, she said. “This is my new passion,” Farnham said. “Once high school kids go on to college, we have to stay connected with them, and stay connected with them as young adults.”

 The youth task force will report to the 2010 General Assembly. At its first set of meetings, held in conjunction with the Big Tent gathering in Atlanta, its members spent hours interviewing people, anyone they could grab in the Exhibit Hall, about what excites and frustrates them about youth ministry, what they long to see.

 The task force also has created two teams that will work in the months ahead – one to present examples of “model programs” (concepts that others might learn from, that seem to be working); and one to write a vision statement for youth ministry in the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.).

 The task force has 15 members — 10 young people, ages 16 to 21, and five adults — and will meet again in September in Harrisburg, Pa.

 At the Big Tent, the task force conducted more than 60 interviews, spending hours listening to the hopes that people have for youth ministry.

 ”I kept hearing over and over again the idea of hospitality,” of the broader church accompanying young people on their walk of faith, said Gina Yeager-Buckley, the PC(USA)’s associate for youth ministry.

Hakeem Jerome Jefferson of New Harmony Presbytery said another theme was the importance of the Presbyterian tradition.

 ”I wish we could count the number of times we heard the word ‘tradition,’”  Jefferson said. But that can mean different things, from the value of the Reformed tradition to saying that in some places, everything is done a certain way.

 Probably three-quarters of the people she spoke with referred to youth being “the future of the church,” said Jessie Light of Heartland Presbytery. But “that means they’re not thinking about the youth right now,” Light said. “The youth should be involved right now, should be taking on these leadership roles right now.”

 Kelly Wiant-Thralls is associate pastor of Market Square Church in Harrisburg, and the chairperson of the task force. That “youth are the future” language grates, she said, because “they feel they’re already empowered to be leaders.”

 Too often, adults “kind of dumb it down” when they talk to young people about faith, said Madison Munoz of St. Augustine Presbytery, instead of thinking that “if you give them leadership positions, they will rise.” She spoke of the importance of giving room and space for young people to raise questions about God and what they believe, “not being condescending and not treating them as children.”

 The task force members talked about disconnects. What happens, for example, when a teenager wants to be involved with church, but her parents do not?

 What about peer pressure — how is the faith of young people affected by what their friends think and say about the culture around them?

 Sometimes “the church seems to be concerned if we have an atheistic or agnostic in the youth group, but they’re there,” said Michelle Thomas-Bush, a minister from St. Augustine Presbytery. She heard repeatedly the idea of “giving them space to figure that out” and to let them ask “real questions – not just what we want them to question.”

 Yeager-Buckley said there may be some tension in what adults think congregations should offer.

Some involved with youth ministry think “God is calling us to provide a clear message,” and not just to say “you’ll come to faith when you come to faith. They feel like we’ve been dangerous … or wishy-washy as Presbyterians, not helping kids to know ‘This is what we believe.’ ”

 Others contend “we need to be in relationship. We need to be there” for young people — wherever they stand in their journeys of faith, Yeager-Buckley said.

 ”We need to know as young people that the church is not judging us based on who you are, whether you’re a Gothic person or gay,” Jefferson said. In the interviews, people spoke of the importance of inclusivity in church – and not just toleration. “Hypocrisy is big.”

 People also spoke of the idea of authenticity. “They were looking for integrity and acceptance and transparency,” said Rex Espiritu, a minister from Whitewater Valley Presbytery. “Youth will spot right away whether they’re really being taken seriously.”

 Members of the task force also are aware that those who come to the Big Tent don’t capture the breadth of the PC(USA). They were unlikely to find there, for example, teenagers who already feel disconnected from church, who are just going through the motions as long as their parents make them.

Is the PC(USA) relevant to young people?

 There’s likely to be more than one answer.

 Thomas-Bush said one interviewee described worship as “so distracting to young people, because it is so different from what they know. … Organ music is distracting to them. Sitting still for 40 minutes is distracting. I thought that was a fascinating way to look at it.”

 But she also heard “that the Presbyterian church has a voice with young people. Over and over again, there was not any hesitation. That we have something unique to offer, we have a sense of identity. … They were lamenting that young people may not get that opportunity, that the Presbyterian church is rich with grace and love and belonging.”

 
 

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